Friday, October 13, 2017

Ways To Help Yourself In Dealing With A Breakup

By Jose Stone


Being in a relationship that is romantic with someone is an unexplainable feeling because there would be a mixture of emotions. You will not think only about yourself anymore but about them also when important decisions are made. Because doing so does not just affect you but them also, either indirectly or directly.

But sometimes, these relationships end, no matter whether the experience was good or bad, because of various reasons. That is why some people need help in dealing with a breakup because of all the negative feelings and thoughts they would have. The length of being together is irrelevant on how affected a person can be with it.

First thing you should do is to express what you feel either through talking to a friend you trust or in writing them out. Suppressing the emotions of loneliness, sadness, anger, rejection is the natural impulse of most people but doing so does not help you move on. Doing this will make you realize why it did not work and why being not with them is better.

Individuals which experienced this usually overly controls their food intake or eats too much of them as their coping mechanism. Doing this while having no idea of the proper way that it should be done is not healthy for you. Be sure you are eating a balanced diet with all the nutritious food possible while avoiding the junk ones.

If you previously have not done it, then start exercising because being active could lower your stress levels. This also boost your mood and improves your cognitive function while providing you a healthy way of being distracted from unpleasant things. Though be careful in overdoing it because this might become your compulsive behavior or as punishment to yourself.

Remind yourself of all the good things you have experienced in life because they might get overwhelmed by the negative experiences like this one. Your judgment may be clouded by this painful breakup and you could be focusing only on negative ones. List the things instead which made you grateful to shift your focus with positive events.

Do the things which you love to even before the painful event happened even when getting excited for these is harder. Force yourself with those activities that can make you have a good feeling such as coffee with friends or massage. Watching comedy movies and shows helps also because laughter can boost your mood.

Try in performing an obsession diet where you could indulge, write or obsess in self pity as much as you want but within just five minutes in an hour every day. Stop immediately when the timer goes off and wait for another hour to do it again then reduced the time limit on the next day and the next. This helps in making you realize you can control your thoughts.

Your well being might be improved by performing towards others any acts of kindness and this helps in relieving depression. Giving back is a powerful way or rechanneling your love. Helping others empowers you and opens your heart as well.




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