Changing your life is tough. It's really hard. I mean, extraordinarily hard.
For anyone that has tried to make some significant changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in a similar way any longer, you've probably experienced the growing pains that come along for the ride with deciding to live in a different way. You are continually tested, you fail time and time again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of positivism.
It does not necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, folk battle with deep change because they don't know the skilled way to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They think that because negativeness is occuring that they have got to be doing something wrong. No! Not at all. Actually if you are seriously wrestling and it hurts a little, you are doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some gruelling obstacles. Pain is going to come out to play, your internal critic is going to run wild, and you are going to have some struggles. That is fantasically ok! That really means you are heading in the correct direction. Don't give up now when you are in pain. Keep going and see it all the way through and you may cross the finish line a transformed man or woman.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about how to get sufficiently near to the pain to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are making a new life, old things tend to flow out and you have to spend some time working with them. This is a normal part of the growing process. But you've got to work with them because if you do not, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you actually do this?
You have got to get near enough to the discomfort and experience it without getting utterly consumed by it. You have got to be content to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you wholly out of the game. When you can do that, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can really spend some time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
For anyone that has tried to make some significant changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in a similar way any longer, you've probably experienced the growing pains that come along for the ride with deciding to live in a different way. You are continually tested, you fail time and time again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of positivism.
It does not necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, folk battle with deep change because they don't know the skilled way to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They think that because negativeness is occuring that they have got to be doing something wrong. No! Not at all. Actually if you are seriously wrestling and it hurts a little, you are doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some gruelling obstacles. Pain is going to come out to play, your internal critic is going to run wild, and you are going to have some struggles. That is fantasically ok! That really means you are heading in the correct direction. Don't give up now when you are in pain. Keep going and see it all the way through and you may cross the finish line a transformed man or woman.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about how to get sufficiently near to the pain to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are making a new life, old things tend to flow out and you have to spend some time working with them. This is a normal part of the growing process. But you've got to work with them because if you do not, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you actually do this?
You have got to get near enough to the discomfort and experience it without getting utterly consumed by it. You have got to be content to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you wholly out of the game. When you can do that, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can really spend some time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Feeling ready to take the journey of your life? Dive into these life goes on quotes for some wise words on what it means to live honestly.
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