Tuesday, September 10, 2013

How To Ask A Girl Out On Date

By Ewald Moors


Well there are really no best ways to woo a girl or ask her out as a lot depends on her individual personality. If you try too hard she may get put off and if you do not then she may feel you are not interested in her. So maybe you have to toe the middle line and see how she reacts. No doubt a woman likes to be pursued, but not in an unwelcome and crude sort of way. Show her that you are really interested and would like to spend more time with her and maybe not with the whole gang around. Here again it should not have any physical innuendos where she feels you want to get too close physically and that is why you want to meet her alone.
[How To Ask A Girl Out]


In this type of scenario, a text invitation would be most convenient. There also less shock should the girl reject an invitation to go out. Guys feel embarrassed when, after asking a girl for a date, she politely refuses.It is worse when she rejects him in front of his friends; with a text invitation, no one need know. Men do not like rejection and thus if a guy is going to text an invitation to a girl, he must word the text correctly.A man should never write a cursory note to a girl like she is one of his buddies, is not going to score him any points, regardless of whether she is interested or not.

If you do not belong to the same group but have met casually and you have taken a liking to her, then of course it is not so simple. If you know someone in her crowd then try and get her number from them and also try and find out whether she is already friendly with someone else, because if this is so, then she may not be interested in you at all. If she is free you may stand a chance. Give her a casual call and see how she responds, if she is friendly and does not cut you short then you can call her again. Build up a rapport with her before you ask her out. This is a much safer way of doing it, so that she does not feel that you are rushing her and back off. Maybe she might surprise you by giving you a call suddenly to chat with you, and if this happens you can be sure that she likes you.

The first thing he needs to do is figure out where he is going to take her. Will it be a movie, a romantic dinner followed by a show or concert? This is very important. Just sending a text asking her out is not enough.She will quite possibly ask, "Where are we going?" She does not want, or need, to read a guy's return text with simply the word "Pub".

Deciding the place to go should be based on what she likes to do. The guy should know her likes and dislikes from their initial meeting - men don't have a choice at this stage of a relationship.Once the venue is decided the guy must them draft the text he is going to send. Now, it must be short, to the point and understandable. Do not discombobulate her with too many details.Guys who intend on driving their date to some place should ask where and how they will meet the girl.For the guys who don't own a vehicle or perhaps have lost their license then perhaps arranging to meet at some well-known place is the only option.

It might sound hard, but really try not to plan it out too much. There are certain details that should be known before taking the plunge. However, planning it out too much is like writing a script for something that should evolve on its own. All it will do is ensure that there is confusion when her responses are not expected or if there is a question that was not anticipated. This is really a time to go with the flow.

If you've ever had to make that long walk up to a girl, or spend a few moments composing yourself before dialing her number, or reading and re-reading your words before hitting "send" on that email, then you know that asking a girl out on a date is a horribly terrifying experience. But it doesn't have to be.With a few tips on what girls are looking for and what not to ask her out to, asking a girl out could be a breeze. (Well, it's still a little worrisome. But less so!)

A big question I get from guys is when the right time to ask a girl out is. The main thing I tell them is that they better have established attraction with the girl first. If they simply just ask her out, out of the blue, without first developing a rapport with her, chances are the girl may be scared and not be interested. Showing your playful side. Girls do not like shy or introverted guys who don't seem fun. I mean, if a shy girl asked you out, would you want to spend time with her? Show her that you are a fun guy to be around. This could be having her see you with your friends, leading the conversation, or milling around a party talking to everyone. Girls are attracted to guys who are leaders, the "popular" guy. This will make her more interested in you.

Some guys think that showering a girl with attention is the best way to get her to like you. This could not be farther from the truth. A girl wants to know that the guy she is seeing has his own life. She will not want to be in a relationship with someone who has nothing else to do. Therefore, keep your contact to a minimum. Sending a couple of text messages a day shows that you are thinking about her without overwhelming her. Coming off as desperate will only cause her to change her mind before you even go out.

Be too invested in if she says yes or no. This is kind of similar to the "being a challenge" thing I discussed above. If you let on that this is a big deal for you - that you're not going to be having fun with or without her - then she might feel too pressured and freaked out. Turn the scales around a bit. Make yourself think that it's her job to win YOU over.A lot of guys say things like "do you want to maybe do something one of these days?" Show your leadership ability by detailing exactly what you want to do with her and when. This works in your favor another way because you can plan the scenario, instead of letting her plan it, so you can show yourself off in the best light possible.




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