John is a senior at the local high school. He will be graduating and shortly after that, he will be looking for a job. With the present economic condition this would not be an easy task. He, along with about 40,000 other graduates from various schools, are competing for the same scarce jobs. That is particularly difficult for kids just getting out of school without any experience in looking for a job.
John's parents are concerned. The fact that there is an increasing number of unemployed children staying with parents, is naturally worrying them. They feel that they should do all possible help for John to get an employment.
First, parents need to take it easy with their graduated children. The children are aware that they would not be able to stay with their parents all the time. They realize that they have to go out and look for a job. Your duty should be to give them proper encouragement and provide them any support they would need. Showing faith in them produces the best results. In addition, don't nag when things aren't going as fast as you think they should.
Most students are not skilled in job hunting. They might give up sooner than necessary. Be aware of this and help to keep your child motivated by encouragement. You can also suggest that part time is OK temporarily. Student graduates that are at least working part time are set to move into a permanent situation when the time comes.
It would be ideal to be his friend at this stage. Listen to what the child wants. One of the biggest mistake parents make is insisting that their son or daughter do what they think they should do. In fact, you should instead find out what your child feel like doing and encourage them. If things gets too bad, you should give support. Work out a plan with them and make sure they are fully included.
Being too soft on them also would be counterproductive. They need firmness in this situation because it is too easy to give up. If you feel that things are not working out then you need to step in.
Establish a social contract with your job-seeking child. It would be good to set some rules come into an understanding with him so that both of you know what to expect. For example, you can allow him to drive your car if he completes and forwards 5 job applications.
It would be better if you suppress your temptation to do things for him yourself. This is going to be counter-productive as it would lead to loss of confidence of your child in yourself and vice versa. You should understand that the things are different from what you had done in your own time.
If you really care about your child and their job hunting effort, you will want to pay attention to the above tips. If you do, both of you will feel much better when that job comes along and trust and confidence will remain.
John's parents are concerned. The fact that there is an increasing number of unemployed children staying with parents, is naturally worrying them. They feel that they should do all possible help for John to get an employment.
First, parents need to take it easy with their graduated children. The children are aware that they would not be able to stay with their parents all the time. They realize that they have to go out and look for a job. Your duty should be to give them proper encouragement and provide them any support they would need. Showing faith in them produces the best results. In addition, don't nag when things aren't going as fast as you think they should.
Most students are not skilled in job hunting. They might give up sooner than necessary. Be aware of this and help to keep your child motivated by encouragement. You can also suggest that part time is OK temporarily. Student graduates that are at least working part time are set to move into a permanent situation when the time comes.
It would be ideal to be his friend at this stage. Listen to what the child wants. One of the biggest mistake parents make is insisting that their son or daughter do what they think they should do. In fact, you should instead find out what your child feel like doing and encourage them. If things gets too bad, you should give support. Work out a plan with them and make sure they are fully included.
Being too soft on them also would be counterproductive. They need firmness in this situation because it is too easy to give up. If you feel that things are not working out then you need to step in.
Establish a social contract with your job-seeking child. It would be good to set some rules come into an understanding with him so that both of you know what to expect. For example, you can allow him to drive your car if he completes and forwards 5 job applications.
It would be better if you suppress your temptation to do things for him yourself. This is going to be counter-productive as it would lead to loss of confidence of your child in yourself and vice versa. You should understand that the things are different from what you had done in your own time.
If you really care about your child and their job hunting effort, you will want to pay attention to the above tips. If you do, both of you will feel much better when that job comes along and trust and confidence will remain.
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