Friday, October 11, 2013

Gain Confidence And Boost Self Esteem In 5 Simple Steps

By Brendon G. Burwell


We all want to become more confident and feel good about ourselves so we can live our very best life. Here are some ways to gain confidence and raise self-esteem:Do something that requires a decision and a follow-through.Have you been putting off writing that letter to aunt Martha? Is there a friend you've been meaning to call? Wash the car, tidy the garden or clean the house. You'll gain confidence by setting goals (even small ones) and following through on them.Enjoy something you do well.
[How To Gain Confidence]


Imagine you are at a public gathering and you have really low self confidence at that point in time. You come home and you feel really bad because you thought you where judged by other people. Your best friend James, thought the same thing when he came home. Judith thought exactly the same thing. The point is, people care more about themselves than they care about you. So inevitably don't care what other people think of you. You are not put on this planet to please all. It's OK to fail, it's OK to be different, it's OK to do what you feel is right for you!

Picture yourself doing it, and then give it a try! It doesn't have to be something big - it can be as simple as joining a walking club.You'll find that you are more centered and happier if you do something that puts you in that flow at least once a week.It's been shown that low self-esteem develops hand-in-hand with individuals who put too much focus on themselves. You can gain confidence by doing something that focuses on someone else or even something else.You'll find that when you are in a situation where you are meeting new people, you immediately become less nervous when you focus on the person you are meeting.

Also if you get in the habit of focussing on the things you can control and not obsess about stuff that is totally out of your realm of influence, you will increase your feelings of hope.Developing hope is a habit. If you make it a habit to focus on the positives and what you can do to make things better, you will feel better about yourself and definitely more hopeful.Here are three things that you should understand in order to fight with your insecurities and gain more confidence.

Have extreme determination and faith. Know that if you have set your mind to do something you will obtain it. Maybe not tomorrow or the next day. Maybe not in 1 week or even 1 year. Learning how to gain self confidence takes time. Some people get over these negative thoughts and gain amazing self confidence in only 10 days. For some people the programming has taken much harder and it takes them 2 months. Maybe you are so deep into it that it takes 5 years? Even if it takes 5 years, when that day comes and you know when you are there, you will feel that 5 years was worth it.

People who are close to you have more impact on you than you think. Sometimes if you want to change you have to change your surroundings and it should start with your friends.If some of your friends are negative, pessimistic people, they make you a negative and pessimistic person too. And that makes it very hard to improve your confidence. Stop meeting with people who make you feel bad and start meeting with people who make you feel good (preferably with highly confident people).

If you are stuck in a rut, your life becomes boring and predictable. It kills your spontaneity and appetite for life. You don't feel alive and that makes you feel insecure. Make some changes in your life, especially dealing with your everyday life (your job, your partner, your home etc.).If you aren't happy in your current situation, you have to change it to become vibrant once again. When you do it, you'll automatically feel more confident. It's hard to feel confident if you feel unhappy.

How to gain confidence to speak a foreign language? If you are asking yourself this question, you are in the right place! I'm going to show you three tips on how to work on your confidence, stop being shy and become a fluent speaker. Here they are!This is the most important thing that you need to understand. There are no mistakes - there is only feedback. You can't learn anything without making mistakes. Making mistakes is an inherent part of learning new languages. Treat mistakes as your friends, because they are your friends - they will help you learn a new language!

If you get out of bed in the morning and you immediately moan to yourself about the weather, the prospect of work, your looks, etc., then guess what? You will be destined to have a bad day. You are priming your subconscious to create a bad day for you.Abraham Lincoln once said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." And he was right. If you think positive thoughts when you get up in the morning, then you will enjoy a much better day, regardless of what actually happens.Accomplishments are necessary when you are learning how to gain confidence. They give you a sense of value and self worth. It's important that you set yourself new goals on a regular basis, making sure that they are set small to begin with. As your self confidence grows, you should set yourself increasingly more challenging goals.

That's it - three tips on how to gain confidence to speak a foreign language. It's all a matter of how badly you want to speak a foreign language fluently. Learning languages isn't only about grammar or vocabulary, it's also about you and your communication skills. Work on your confidence every day and I'm pretty sure that you will quickly overcome your fear. Good luck!




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