Dangerous word...that word "should."
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've said this before...
"That should have happened...this should go that way..."
But the truth is, it didn't. It didn't go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
There's danger in having your "should" exist in the future as well. When your should is in the future, you are projecting specific events that have to happen onto a time and place you really have no idea what will happen in the first place. Then, when your projection doesn't happen you end up being incredibly disappointed.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
Truth is, we are all going to go through incredibly painful times in our lives. There will be moments that challenge us, make us want to fall to our knees in tears and make us crack under pressure.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
What happens when you let go of your past and your future?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
No "should."
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're living "here."
So stay in touch with the present moment and exist in the present.
Come to a world full of acceptance.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've said this before...
"That should have happened...this should go that way..."
But the truth is, it didn't. It didn't go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
There's danger in having your "should" exist in the future as well. When your should is in the future, you are projecting specific events that have to happen onto a time and place you really have no idea what will happen in the first place. Then, when your projection doesn't happen you end up being incredibly disappointed.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
Truth is, we are all going to go through incredibly painful times in our lives. There will be moments that challenge us, make us want to fall to our knees in tears and make us crack under pressure.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
What happens when you let go of your past and your future?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
No "should."
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're living "here."
So stay in touch with the present moment and exist in the present.
Come to a world full of acceptance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into some great bible quotes on faith by clicking here or read more quotes on hope.
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